But it doesn't work for everyone. Personally, I have zero romantic interest in someone I don't already know, so I simply wouldn't get to know someone within the context of "dating". We'd have to get to a certain point of friendship before I'd know them well enough to have room for any interest in moving to a dating relationship. My first two boyfriends, we had just been friends for a few months before dating them and things got physical quickly, although sexual things weren't straight away.
With my current boyfriend, I met him for an hour or so in Spring but there was no chance for socialising. He was a housemate of a friend of mine.
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We met again at karaoke in November, along with our mutual friend. We got talking a bit at karaoke and a couple of days later he added me on facebook and asked me out on a date. We only met up for coffee. I was going through a bit of a tough time and therapy. Plus I found him attractive and a nice guy but didn't know if we would work well in a relationship as we didn't know much about each other.
But didn't want to say it was a bad time and miss an opportunity.
So for December we were pretty much just friends, just meeting up for a drink and getting to know each other better. He did look tempted to kiss me a couple of times, but respected me and didn't. I remember once, must have been in December when I was on a pub crawl with him, both his housemates and a couple of other friends. His housemates even invited me and a couple of others, who declined the offer back to their house for more drinks and cards against humanity.
Sooooo like, what are we??
I think they were trying to act as his wingman a bit as they knew he was a shy guy! But he walked me home at the end of the evening. It wasn't until January that therapy ended, we realised we had a ridiculous amount in common, kissed and made it official. And we're still together. I think it's important to ask about dealbreakers before you get too attached and things get too serious. So when talking to my current boyfriend for that first month, we established that we had similar views on dealbreakers such as religion.
These were things I already knew before dating in regards to my first two boyfriends. I don't really think it matters too much. You could date someone for years and one day their personality could change. People don't usually hold the same opinions, values or personality traits forever. I don't date people I don't know.
I'm cautious and don't feel compelled to date. I like to circle a guy and figure out if he's interesting. And we take it from there.
I prefer to know a bit about about them before dating, I'm not keen on going in blind. I guess I like to figure out if hes a decent guy first its also nice to have know you have something in common. Most of the time, I meet someone, go out on a bunch of dates with them, and after a couple of weeks, we become exclusive. I normally see them quite a lot in those couple weeks. I never date complete strangers or online. Personally, I can tell by dates if I'd like to continue seeing someone.
Am I attracted to him? Do I genuinely enjoy our time together? Do I look forward to seeing him? If so, then I'll continue dating them. It sounds like you may be putting too much pressure on the situation. Dating requires an element of rolling with the punches and enjoying the ride.
As Dan Savage says, all relationships end except the one that doesn't, then that one ends with death.
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I think it depends on the person. I've personally never been involved with anyone I wasn't friends with first. I've always felt that friendships lead to the best relationships. It's better to date whoever you want to date assuming they also want to date you. Some people can only feel attraction to those they know at least a little bit already, others feel attraction instantly. People should date those they are attracted to who are also attracted to them. I don't have much experience with casual dating.
My SO is my first boyfriend, and we were friends before nearly a year before getting together. I definitely trusted him a lot from the beginning because I already knew him so well. If I were to casually date, I would move a lot slower because trust needs to be built with someone I just met. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy.
Log in or sign up in seconds. Submit a new text post. Get an ad-free experience with special benefits, and directly support Reddit. AskWomen subscribe unsubscribe , readers 1, users here now Don't forget to upvote good questions! About what you post: About how you post it: Personally I find it easier if I don't know the person beforehand! I could never date any friends of mine, they've become like brothers. Plus it would be painful if we split up and ruined any potential friendship. Usually I need to know them a little before going out but obviously you don't really get to know the person that well till you actually go out.
Dating is precisely for getting to know the other person before making it official. So, go for it! Hmm, depends how much i like that person. If only a little i wouldn't bother but if i like that person alot then i would. Well, you won't get to know the person until you date them? We really clicked and i enjoy every moment with him even now. Well thats the thing, who says you need to dive into a relationship head first falling madly in love etc. Its just what it is, take it slow and see where it goes. You dont need to be friends first, and actually its probably more difficult to start a romantic relationship after being long term friends.
By kaiskloset Started November 14, By RayAmbler7 Started September 18, By 0ly40 Started August 8, By angelangie Started May 28, By sugarplum Started June 24, Archived This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. Prev 1 2 Next Page 1 of 2. Posted September 18, Share this post Link to post Share on other sites. I always told myself I wanted to get to know someone for at least 6 months before dating, which actually never happened for any of my relationships I've had about 6 So, after my ex and I broke up, I said I wouldn't date anyone before actually getting to know them first.
Posted September 19, Posted September 20, Go with how you do it! I know personally I'd like to date someone I've been friends with for awhile, but I say that now there may be someone I see right off the bat that I may want to just date for awhile at first and see how it goes.