That's a good idea. Don't give this girl the opportunity to seriously break your friend's heart on the off chance this might just be a one time slip up. You should definitely have a talk with your girlfriend as well. You cheated too, and she needs to know if you two are in a monogamous relationship. It's a no brainer in the "protect my friend" department. If anything is causing you to not accept that it's that you're trying to weigh it AGAINST the cost of complicating thigns with your girlfriend. So not only did you choose yourself and your needs over your friend that night when you messed around with his girl, but you are continuing to choose yourself over him by not telling him about her, after the fact.
Probably all out of self-preservation. Don't underestimate how good the human brain is at deluding oneself to make things "appear" easier to deal with. It's these simple choices in life that differentiate the men from the boys. It's never easier being a good guy - it's almost always harder. So, I mean, decide what type of guy you want to be and accept that - but stop deluding yourself into thinking that you are judging this whole thing rationally and weighing what is a better decision. All you're doing right now is weighing how much you can lose in potential scenarios - in fact I bet that's the only reason you came here to post this - just to get options to further your selfish agenda.
Addressed this above - I don't really know her, so I can't say whether this is a one-time mistake or not. It doesn't seem worth ending relationships over, though. I completely understand where you're coming from, and I don't disagree, but I don't think it's my place to break it to him either way. Um, maybe you just have totally different views on how a monogamous relationship works Okay, pretend that situation happened without this one ever having happened , but you and your dude swap places.
You don't even know everything there is to know about her. So she comes over to hang with you, and your friend happens to be there. You go to bed, all nonchalant and having no doubts that your lady isn't going to get naked with your best friend. He gets down with your girlfriend while you're sleeping, the very first time they meet.
Drank too much. Hooked up with friends gf. Come tell me how bad a person I am.
When you all wake up, would you like to know what happened? Or would you rather find out when you eventually break up months later? Or perhaps a year into marriage, your friend lets it slip that your girl begged for his dick? Part of the problem is I don't really have a normal view of what a monogamous relationship is supposed to be like. I'm ostensibly in one, but I don't have whatever it is that makes people jealous or possessive, so it's hard to put myself in someone else's shoes and successfully apply the golden rule. The scenario you described wouldn't really bother me. I'd maybe be a little annoyed and probably feel a little left out.
I totally understand this is not typical though. So golden rule still applies. A foursome if you ALL get involved. Anyway, as a friend, its your responsibility to keep your friend on the same page, as that's what friends do.
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You keeping it a secret is likely to backfire pretty bad losing gf AND friend. So what you're saying is you have little to no sense of empathy?
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It's hard for me to believe that you would only feel "a little annoyed and left out" if a supposedly good friend betrayed you. I find comments like these funny - it's like "Empathy Just to be clear, I don't have any interest in pursuing this girl. It was definitely a one-time stupid thing that came out of a perfect storm of specific circumstances and extremely poor decision making.
Why don't you just admit that you don't care about your friend and only care about yourself Your actions speak a lot louder then all the bullshit you're feeding us. Your friends radar is off by a bit about choosing friends but that is his business or bad luck, I dunno. Fair point, but we can skip the name calling! My point was that there was at least some restraint exercised, but I guess it was worded badly. Pretend for a moment that my friend's wallet is ridiculously smoking hot and demanding that I fuck it.
I'm not sure that telling everyone is the right thing to do, but as I've said elsewhere in the comments, you guys are making me at least consider it. Of course telling everyone is the right thing to do. You and that girl cheated on your SOs who trusted you! Your friend trusted you enough to leave you alone with his girlfriend, and your girlfriend trusted you enough to think nothing would happen when she didn't show up.
They both obviously put their trust in the wrong person.
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When you make a mistake, you're supposed to man up to it, and take the consequences you deserve. Joking like this doesn't really show remorse for what you did.
You betrayed both your good friend, and your girlfriend. That's nothing to joke about. If you really are a good person who did a bad thing, then the only way to prove that is by doing the honorable thing. Let your friend know what happened so he doesn't waste his time with a slut. And tell your girlfriend, so she can decide on how far to go with you, with an honest image of you. You absolutely deserve to.
You don't deserve your friend or your girlfriend, but they do deserve to know what kind of person they've got in their lives, if only to cut you out. I'll tell you how bad you are when you tell me how good the sex was. ThereIsNoSpork , Aug 26, Aug 26, 5.
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Aug 26, 7. Aug 26, 8. How long have they been dating? And don't feel too bad bro, takes two to tango. KravenMoarhed , Aug 26, Aug 26, 9. Aug 26, LOL tryna blame it on alcohol BohnHallBaron , Aug 26, Your thoughts on Donald Trump are irrelevant to her, but your disapproval of high-waisted jeans and maxi dresses she might take note of.
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