It's very true that being scammed out of your emotions is a painful experience - and it takes a long time to recover. If we could figure out what makes some people approach relationships with dishonestly, we would get rich! I wish a site could be created listing the names of men and women from these sites like POF and MATCH who claim they want a relationship and tell you how great you are, etc, but JUST want sex, or tell you how great you are, meet you, and pretend to like you because they think you have money, only to find out you don't and suddenly they're gone.
That would border on slander, I'm sure, and some people would list names out of spite, but wouldn't it be great in a perfect world if there could be a list of these people to check. I've never been scammed out of money, I've been scammed of my feelings. Why must they go through the bulls of telling you how wonderful you are, what great chemistry you have, and what a great team you'd make?
I'm so sorry you went through that, Jan - I know of others who have been conned, and it hurts on so many levels. How I wish there were easier ways to spot these jerks. Good information, I wish I had read this before I gave my money to a con artist. He had my heart now I'm hurt and not trusting. He talked to me for hours months m Im and phone lie after lie protect yourself. I no longer will use dating sites. Hi, Graham - thanks for your kind words of support!
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It's very sad to see the increasing instances of dating scams every year. Many of them are cottage industries in Third-World countries where groups of people troll websites dating or otherwise and send enticing messages. I guess the odds work in their favor, when they generate thousands of contacts but finally get big money when they pull someone into their net.
Congratulations on this wonderful hub. It is so informative and helpful. I don't need the services of these websites but a person who might, would do so well to read and absorb your efforts. Hi, HubbinNubbin - I don't personally have info on foreign sites - but I do know there are plenty of scammers who use sites based in the US but they live in other countries. This might be a good topic for either the Answers section on this site, or the Forum. Good luck - and be careful! As my German is still much desired for, it has been a long journey for me to decide what is real and what is not.
I was wondering if you guys have any tips in recognizing foreign online dating page scams? Like the technicalities, without having to know the language well? Example of one of the pages I have found: I am just starting out as a blogger by the way, if you guys have any tips or advice, contact me - I am always looking for new friends: Hi, Becky - that's a really great question - the only thing I can figure is that they find photos online, or scan good-quality magazine shots and use those.
I've seen photos that were definitely part of a male model's portfolio. They will stoop to anything to get someone's attention and hook them in. Hi, Stephen - that is so true; those sites are money-makers.
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Now I am hearing of people trying to scam others on this site by contacting them personally about relationships or money. And, I just got a message from a stranger on LinkedIn that sounded all too fishy. Dating sites are actually all over the net. Individuals must not be too desperate to find a date. Tips mentioned in your hub are a great help! Thanks for sharing it for everyone's benefit. I agree, MsKrysma - the hurts from these predators last for years.
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It is the worst form of deception. Thanks so much for reading and commenting - I look forward to your hubs! It's sad and very wrong for con artists to hurt others who are just looking for love. I hope people recongnize the signs that someone is not right for them beofre they do get hurt. All's good here, sweet Marcy -- and we totally agree -- the con artists are not only another breed they're downright scary. Hi, Sis - it's good to see you! Thanks for reading and commenting here. I've been on a few sites, too, which is how I was able to research this hub.
There are indeed people of both genders looking for money and a caretaker they generally want marriage, in order to get the caretaker benefits. The con artists are yet another breed - they're only out to scam people, right from the start.
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Either way, it's discouraging to sift through all that in the hopes of finding the diamond amongst the lumps of coal. Great work and research,Marcy. I tried a couple of dating sites years ago just for fun.
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Found there's a lot of guys looking for women my age -- they need a nurse or a purse and I wasn't available for either. Hi, Alocsin - what a great tip about identifying photos! You always have the best information about the ins and outs of Internet use - thanks for sharing this! I think in matters of the heart, people aren't so wary as they should be. These tips should be very helpful. As for the fake photo, if you drag a photo from a website into Google Images, it'll will show you where the photo is from.
Voting this Up and Useful. Thanks so much for your comment here, adjkp - I'm glad you never had to be exposed to this type of thing. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. I'm so thankful that I met my wife young and didn't go the online dating route. I have heard about people falsifying their profiles but, after reading this, there is so much more for people to be aware of.
Thanks for your comment here, Margie - and I am so sorry your girlfriend has run into those issues. It is disheartening to see what happens in the name of dating. Thanks for reading and sharing! I'm so glad I'm not dating anymore. However, I have a ton of girlfriends who are. One was a physical threat and the other stole her money.
Hi, Allie - it's so sad to hear of the people who've been hurt through these dishonest schemers. I know there are decent people on those sites, too, but people need to be aware of the not-so-good users as well.
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I'm glad you've put this information together. Like others who have commented, I have heard so many horror stories about this.
The unfortunate thing about online dating is that people can represent themselves in any way they choose so you really don't know for sure what you're getting with these. Oooh - that is creepy, to get contacted on this site. I had an odd message early on from someone asking me for personal help, but not the 'Hi, you're cute' stuff. I hope you reported this to the moderators?
The person probably contacted several Hubbers.
These con artists hit up anywhere they can get messages to people. Hi, its funny that you should mention the 'divorced with a son' thing. I actually received an email the other day from a new 'hubbber' he hasn't written anything yet, who said, 'I think you are cute, can you email me? I am divorced with a son and so on! I felt like writing back and saying, this isn't a dating site, but I didn't want him to know my email.
I would never trust these sites, I have heard to many horror stories. I have watched programs on tv about women who give out thousands of pounds so that the guy can come over to the uk, or meet them abroad, and they never find them again after losing all that money. I feel like shaking them for their stupidity! Hi, Kittyjj - I truly hope you never need these, too!
And I hope, if they need them, the information here helps your friends avoid these con artists! Excellent tips on online dating. Hopefull I won't be needing it though. But I am happy to share them with my friends who I think might be interested. Hi, drbj - I'm so glad you like the hub and the movie - which I love, by the way! Wow - what a story, Aviannovice! You should write about that experience - I'm so glad you gave that example here.