Echoing what others have said, it doesn't matter how "mature" she is, a 16 year old is in a totally different place, mentally and physically than a 21 year old. To be frank, you might want to consider where you are psychologically that are you are even interested in this girl. Arizona sex offenders are routinely placed on lifetime probation, and have a lot of restrictions and invasions in their lives as long as they remain on it.
You should be wary of any year-old girl lavishing you with attention. It's not just possible, but probable, that it's not really you she likes, but the simple fact that a year-old man is paying even the smallest bit of attention to her. Teenagers get very bored very easily.
These relationships rarely work in the long run. There are exceptions, of course, but in my opinion, even if you're totally in love with her, this is a very, very bad idea. I feel like I had plenty of self-confidence and positive sexual awareness at that age, but I remember being attracted to other people in their mid-teens rather than older people. I can't begin to read her mind any more than the rest of the people in this thread can , but just from what you're saying, it sounds like she's not even necessarily expressing sexual interest in you.
Beyond your own attraction to her, you're also being forced to think of this in sexual or potentially-sexual terms by a few other factors the laws, the fact that her dad's a cop.
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I think the best thing you could do is stay her friend and give her your support and advice as she navigates the landscape of relationships and sex in college. I think it's really sad that some people in this thread are saying you can't be her platonic friend and should drop all interaction with her.
But I do think you need to consider your relationship carefully and communicate with her VERY clearly from now on. I'm in agreement with Brittanie, but for slightly different reasons. I think men have an easy time picking up younger women. Younger women, in my experience, want to learn everything that a more mature man can teach them.
In the teens, a single year makes a big difference in terms of maturity. You've gone through the experiences of living on your own, finding work, and supporting yourself financially and emotionally. A year-old still has Mommy and Daddy's support to fall back on if anything should go wrong. You're well beyond that point-- do you want to have to sneak your girlfriend out of her parent's house to stay out late? Want to take her to get drunk with your friends? You're at different stages of life; its not to say that you can't love her or share an emotional bond, but I think it will be a fragile bond due to the difference in maturity and the barriers created by the law and social norms.
She's probably enamored with you because you have so much more experience than her, which I entirely understand. But at some point, you'll want someone who understands your experiences and can teach you a thing or two. Its easy for older guys to pick up younger women-- but I'm not sure if they satisfy our needs. I mean it - do not EVER let yourself be in any situation where the two of you are alone - without witnesses - in a social setting. For her protection, and for yours. No matter how honorable your intentions or hers , there may be other people who may try to turn any opportunity into a chance to "get" you.
Whatever you do together, do it in public - go to the zoo, concerts, parks, etc. In your case 0.
Sorry, looks like you have to wait till you're 23 and she's Yeah, I know it's not a real rule but it does have a certain intuitive appeal. B On the other hand if you can keep it non-nude for a couple of years, then that's ok too ; posted by singingfish at 5: Chiming in, blackout, you are displaying unusual wisdom by leaving this opportunity on the table for a few years. There is really no upside to having this relationship at this point.
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You can fight City Hall on this concept, and maybe win, but it still means a fight. Fights are costly and since the 'other guy' is much bigger, your chances are slim to none in prevailing. Its wiser to avoid a fight. What's truly remarkable about Mr. Blackout, is that you are doing it in advance! This will come in handy over the next few decades.
Congratulations on making a good choice and taking care of both of you. The "dad is a cop" angle is delightful.
Are you freaking serious? Wisdom in music yes, I know you plan to keep it non-physical: When true love knocked on my door, she'd just barely turned sixteen; And I was a little bit nervous, if you know just what I mean.
But I heard somewhere that true love conquers all, and figured that was that, then I started havin' dreams 'bout bein' chased out of town wearin' nothing but my cowboy hat. I said, "No deal We did not actually have sex, though it was very difficult. In the end, despite that she was very mature for fifteen, the age difference wound up being a problem.
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That little voice saying it doesn't seem right? Not too many people seem to comprehend the idea that she might actually want to have sex with you. This is a distinct possibility that complicates things further. Shame about the law, but there it is.
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A friend of mine dated a girl that was under 18 in Phoenix, AZ. He was probably 19 or This was a few years back, so I don't remember exact age. But, he got consent from the parents and started dating this chick. A month down the road, he pissed the girl off, which in turn pissed off the parents and they took it to the cops. They warned him to stay away, but how could he? He already spent a month dating this chick like every day and he wanted to work things out. And you know she probably only stayed upset for like a day or two, while the parents never forgot.
So while trying to work things out picking her up from school, taking her out more, etc he somehow ended up in prison for few years. I guess the moral of the story is that parents can change their mind about consent while you too are deeply in love. Run away right now. Especially with this discussion here, now, in the public record. When I was 15 I briefly dated a guy about your age. There were upsides and downsides but ultimately it didn't work out. I couldn't go to bars with him which was a pain.
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His friends' girlfriends were older and thought I was too young and weren't particilarly nice about it. He wanted to have sex and I didn't want to. In my world this was normal and in his world it totally wasn't. When I stayed out late with him it was, again, normal for him and really not normal for me. In fact, my Mom flipped out once when I came home at 3 am and threatened to have him arrested for statutory. That fight has created a rift between us to this day my Mom and I.
In the end, we broke up because I didn't want to have sex with him. In looking back at it, he was somewhat immature and generally into dating high school girls, which seemed cool to me, a high school girl, at the time, but now I'm sort of like "what was he thinking?
If it were me, I'd wait and see what college brings her, assuming she'll ber more independent from her family, out on her own etc. On the off chance that she's the one for you, she'll still be there. Do you remember the old saying, "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"? Ok, good, my work here is done for those of you who are late to the game. Congreve posted by bilabial at 8: I know a guy who is in jail for multiple years for a consensual relationship with an underage girl she was You don't want nothin' to do with this.
Be nice, but be clear that she is too young for you to date. Recommend she date some young men nearer her own age. Even without the "jailbait" angle, this guy could murder you or get a cop buddy to do it and get away with it. You could be shot while "resisting arrest" or something; not too long ago a cop in my city shot a guy in the back as he was running away "because he feared for his life". I say date her. Try to stay out of jail.