Every other week, after a lot of "social obligations" and just want to recharge and be alone, not even boyfriend allowed. I think I'll just stay home This is definitely me, too! I get so drained after a few nights out that I need some time to recover. I use my social time for inspiration and to learn more about other people and their experiences. I work from home and for myself, so when I need to recharge, getting lost in my work at home truly helps. It's a good balance for someone like me and I am glad there are others out there who feel and experience introverted extraversion as I do.
That's so true but I wouldn't say I was exhausted I would say I had my fill of people for the day. Also they had a point about coming off as a open book but when it comes to my actual personal feelings I prefer to keep it to myself. What do you do for work? I recently graduated college and working for myself and from home would be a dream come true but seems impossible.
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It was a challenge at first, but after working with the right people, I'm doing quite well. It took about months for things to take off for me, and a little bit of personal branding and directional change on my LinkedIn Profile. There's still a lot I could do to further myself, but I'm already content with the amount of work I have. I am a real estate agent. It gives me a nice balance of being around people and getting my alone time.
I used to be completely extroverted and didn't have many waking minutes without people around me. My roommate and I would even fall asleep talking to each other in college It just took getting married and having children to want some time by myself!!! Whether it is doing comparative market analysis, looking for properties for clients, preparing clients files for showings and listings, writing contracts, following up with various people for each of the transactions I'm working on, etc.
I have had to learn time management and some discipline for getting tasks done on time, but it has come more and more naturally. I am personally loving it and I'm more fulfilled in this career than anything I've done in the past. Same here, I left my job to begin freelance writing career. But you need to put in a lot of work to get paid and income is also fluctuating. Besides working from home, I would suggest you to give tutions on any subject you are good at.
You will feel fulfilled. I absolutely love organising and planning events and meet ups and work myself up to the day but when the day comes I just want it to pass already. I mean, it's not that I don't have fun, I always have fun. I'd be bursting with energy, on a high, but what I look forward to most is for the day to end and return to the sanctuary of my own home.
We're just all a little paradox, aren't we? My friends like to call me a "situational extrovert", meaning I do enjoy smaller social gatherings and parties, but only when I know a good handfull of the people there, and even then I find myself needing some significant alone time afterwards! I always thought I was weird and unrelatable for it until now! I have also been a little confused on this same issue of being extroverted, in the sense that I tend to "appear" to be an open book. But, when it's "My" deepest feelings and thoughts being scrutinized by others, I am instantly, very Introverted.
I Love being with other people but I value my long periods of being alone and not having to feel obligated to entertain, or even talk to people for lengthy periods of time. After being with other people, I feel like I need to recharge, by being in That's exactly the way we ENFP's operate throughout our personal lives.
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We love interacting with others but later we begin to feel like we just need a break. We are self-reliant and very independent. It is hard for us to allow someone else to make decisions for us or boss us around that's why we all have an entrepreneurial spirit. Our deepest aspirations are those that involve creativity and self expression.
We like exploring others but we hate being responsible for others. We just have that "thing" a special spark of charisma and awesome interpersonal skills. People love us but it is hard for us to open up at first unless we feel we are around people who share the same interests or have similar characteristics. Our friends tend to be very supportive and understanding. We need that encouragement from friends to know that we are doing the right things.
If anyone is against us, we see it as competition. Always come to slay and never last at opportunity. As an ENFP I have found that while I know many people, and most people that know me comment on how I seem to know everyone, there are few people I would describe as being a close friend.
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I would actually like to have more close friends but this has not been the case throughout my entire life and I am 59 years old. I also plan to do things with people and then when the event approaches and I am not in the mood, I find myself trying to get out of the commitment if it isn't going to put other people in a bind if I don't participate. I found out that they were going to get to the venue 3 hours early and this was NOT general admission seating! Someone else in the group who lives in a different town had my ticket so if I was going I had to meet the group 3 hours before the concert.
I found out late that friends were getting to the theatre like six hours early and I couldn't handle waiting that long in a line, it sounded like torture. One of them had my ticket and would not save me a seat so I just didn't go! This may have a bit more to do with thefp part of the enfp personality type, I tested on the border of both of those and have found that I can get better at shutting off the sponge like tendancies of the f, and getting quicker at reading people and making quick decisions to set boundaries that I could see being more of a j trait If I could say anything to fellow fpers it would be trust your instincts more and maybe make a list before you go out of things you perceive in social settings that brings your mood down.
Then when you feel that feeling direct your body and thereby your energy receiver away from it, keep your energy sacred for the work you need and want to do, and you'll be able to enjoy being an extrovert more. At least we are abstract thinking people so we're not totally screwed! OMG this makes soooo much sense as to why I keep deactivating my FB accounts or at some point deleting them.
I was hating on myself for not being able to just chill with Facebook since it seems like such an easy thing to deal with. Why was I putting so much energy into it?? Why did I feel like my privacy was invaded even by the fact that sometimes I don't even post anything on it, but the mere fact that people can see who my friends are stresses me out??
Also, it makes sense why I feel the need to deactivate and trim my list down to friends -- it's because i get super drained just by being out there even if I don't comment on anything! So much empathy sensors are on full blast just being on FB and it drains me to just be on it. I delete my FB account at least twice a month. Also I throw parties every time I'm home I'm reluctant to make new friends, don't trust easily, and careful about who I let into my inner circle.
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With good reason though. I only have room for relationships that add more to my quality of life than they take from it.
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Once someone matters to me, they matter like family, and I share my whole self. I imagine this approach might seem stuck up or something in more superficial, self-absorbed types, but for us it is actually the wisest way to ensure that we AND others are treated the way we need and deserve to be, without getting tangled up in the inevitable problems, crises, struggles, and other deep personal matters of people we are not meaningfully connected with. Once they're in and we care, we're loyal to a fault - them before us even. It also puts us in the terrible situation of feeling compelled to pull waaaay back and self-protect, but reluctant to give up what we tbought was a safe way to meet some of our need for connection.
If only respect was truly valued and honored This was one of my biggest struggles through college and even a bit after I graduated! I just couldn't handle it, for all the reasons you mentioned and then some. Even the existence of my Facebook was a stressor, especially when I was feeling "drained" like so many of you have mentioned, and in need of alone time. I'm so glad I'm not the only one!
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I wish i could like this comment.. I am just like it says, Enthusiastic more than Extroverted. I actually tell people that I'm an introvert who is Outgoing, they get all puzzled like i just built castles in the air. It is said in most studies, that the ENFP is the one extrovert that is actually an introvert. I do like my alone time, initially I didn't believe that I am an Extrovert. ENFPs are known to be very independent extroverts, often needing time to themselves to reflect. They are also known to be individualistic.
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